This is a picture of the ramp that leads to David’s wing of our home. We no longer need it or use it but I still keep it clear of snow. I’m not really sure why I do it but I feel compelled to keep it clear. I think it reminds me of the privilege it was to care for David and meet his needs. I miss being needed by him. For the last several months of David’s life we did everything for him. I guess the ramp is symbolic of the joy it was to be his Dad.
I also think the ramp is a something I am holding onto because it is something I don’t have to let change. In the past two months our whole way of living has changed. No more aids, no more medications, no more doctors, no more crazy paper work, no more diapers, no more scheduling issues; poof in the blink of an eye our way of living changed. But it is still snowing and I can shovel the snow on David’s ramp.
So I put on my boots, my Carhart jacket, the faux bunny rabbit lined ear flapped hat that once belonged to David, and my gloves and shovel the snow. When you come to visit, please feel free to use the ramp.
Warren, I needed to let some tears out and this helped. I think it is these simple things that make us feel close to those we have lost. You and your family we're so lucky to be blessed with David. I hope your family and friends will use the ramp often.
ReplyDeleteJennifer Simpkiss
Thanks for writing Jennifer. Good luck with your new job. Warren
ReplyDeleteFew people ever get (or take) the opportunity to be as significant to anyone as you were for David and so many at EHBC. That ramp is a great memory and testament to your significance in a world that has a tendency to stand idly by.
ReplyDeleteThank you for being significant!
A cathartic ramp. Perfect !
ReplyDeleteI was getting tearful today thinking of going to the HS curricullum night for Jacqueline tonight... sad at the thought of my little girl growing up... then I found myself thinking of you and Brenda... and I felt selfish. I hope you know how much you mean to so many people... you pop into my mind every day for some reason or another. You are such an inspiration to me... and I just want you to both know that I love you! Julie K.
ReplyDeleteThank you Julie! We know we are loved but it sure is good to be reminded. :)
ReplyDeleteWarren
This made me smile. It is great the see the commitment of a loving parent, we all know that it is rare to see that. I love your family. Thaks for always beeing there with our judgement.
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