Monday, October 12, 2009

"Six Months or Less"

These are the words a doctor we met with on Friday spoke to us. Shocked, numb, relieved, sad, overwhelmed, at peace, and hoping she was wrong were feelings that coursed through our veins in a matter of seconds. She went on to say that David's disease is progressing at a rapid rate and his body is simply slowing down. He has not been eating much of anything and drinking little as well. Our goal is to simply help David be as comfortable as possible. We have no idea how long David actually has to live but we are going to make the most of the time we have with him. At times we get little glimpses of the David we all know and love. He laughs at some of the weirdest things. Asking him if he wants a cigar and whiskey normally always gets a small smile.

We have decided not to use a g-tube. When David asks for food or water we give him as much as he wants, but forcing it into him will only make him feel more uncomfortable. His not eating and drinking are a result of Batten's disease. Forcing him to take food or liquids might prolong his life, but it would only prolong the place of suffering he is often in.

Chris and his girl friend, Brittney, were here this weekend. We took them and Daniel out to pick apples, had dinner together, and then we shared with them what the doctor said. It was hard, but we were all in agreement we don't want David in the place of suffering he is currently in. We rest knowing that this is not the end for David. Our faith in Christ, our faith is the resurrection give us hope. David will see again, walk again, communicate again, and all the why questions he has ever pondered related to his disease will be answered. I look forward to that day.

We are still working at trying to find just the right combination of drugs to keep him from being anxious, sad, and emotionally overwhelmed. He is on three medications which for the most part are helping him. There are still periods of time where he cries, rocks back and forth, and whimpers. Pray these periods of time would come less and less.

We rest knowing we are covered in prayer, supported by a loving family, friends, and church, and upheld by a God who is always there for us.

23 comments:

  1. Will be in constant prayer....

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  2. We pray for your peace and for God's comfort to be overwhelmingly tangible in your lives. We pray that God will communicate His love clearly to David in ways that we can't begin to understand. We love you guys and we love David.

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  3. Warren, my heart aches for you and Brenda (and Chris) and yet I know that your faith will, somehow, continue to sustain you all through this time. Maybe the next time Patty and I are in NY you and I ought to have that cigar and whiskey:). Love and Prayers from MI

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  4. I cannot begin to comprehend the roller coaster of emotions you all must be feeling. I will be praying for all of you....
    Cathy

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  5. heartbroken. please call on us for anything - we love you all and will be praying for Davids comfort and strength for you and the family. -kristy and sean

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  6. I know its hard now but like you said, the day he can have all the answers answered will be the best day of his life and it will only be the beginning of his everlasting life with our lord Jesus Christ. Stay strong and lean on your faith to get you through this. There is always a happy ending to every story, and David's story is definitely worthy of a happy ending. Much love the Wilcox's.

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  7. I pray the Man Of Sorrows will be a source of strength, courage and peace!!! What we see as loss HE sees as gain!!!

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  8. Keeping you all in prayer. Receive our love.

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  9. I just took some time to read through the whole blog and, of course, it was heart-breaking. But I'm glad that David still has good days, and I'm glad for the blessing of the cruise that you got to take. I'll be praying for peace for your family, comfort for David, and for Dan. It was good to see your family yesterday. :-)

    Much love,
    Erin

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  10. Your family is always in our prayers. I am glad you are still able to have moments where you see the David you love so much....those are the times to cherish and remember. God Bless
    Christina

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  11. Warren, Brenda, Chris, and Daniel,
    Know that the love and prayers of so many surround you now...mine are abundantly included.
    Love,
    Lyz Wengert

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  12. I am speaking for my whole family when i say this, we love you guys! and you are constantly in our thoughts and prayers. You guys are a great family and David is very lucky, I'll be praying for comfort for David and peace for your family and more of those moments were you get to see David smile. :)
    Much Love,
    Katie (and the rest of the gang)

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  13. Christine and I love you all more than words can express. David's journey has frequently been on our minds and hearts and impacted us in how we deal with our own challenges. David's life is very significant and a big part of that is because of you and Brenda.

    God bless you
    The Gegans
    Ed, Christine and Quintin

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  14. Dear Warren, Brenda, Chris, David and Daniel,

    All of you will be in our prayers. It is good to know that you see the glimpses of the David you once knew.. It is incredible, that sometimes, you see him smiling. That has to be God at work in him.
    We are here for you.
    God Bless you all and we too Love you,

    John and Mary

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  15. God gave you a son to love, to say good-bye in this life must be so painful. Only our Savoir could ease you in this transition. Only our Savoir loves you above human comprehension. I pray that your whole family rest in this knowledge.
    Pam

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  16. “David’s Prayer”

    Inconsolable.

    No.

    There is always One

    who sees,
    who shares,
    whose sighs move mountains,
    whose groans grade his path

    to peace-in-His-Presence.


    Psalm 84, in the light of Romans 8:26-27 and Ephesians 2:14

    David Richardson
    October 2009

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  17. Warren and Brenda,
    You are all in our thoughts and prayers. I smile remembering your sweet David. He has touched so many and your response and acceptance of all the stages have been such a witness to the Lord's provision and love.

    Much Love, Robin, Gabe, Nico, Daniel, Zarate

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  18. Warren, Brenda, Chris, David and Daniel
    You are all in my thoughts and prayers. Your strength and faith are an incredible witness to so many. Thank you for sharing this journey with all of us!
    I will pray for peace, comfort, acceptance and continued smiles from David.

    Barb D.

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  19. It is hard to know what to say. Reading about David and your family's struggles ... this life can be so very hard. One thing I have learned is that this life is so fleeting. Sometimes I wish I could have a true realization of what this life is all about. What I know is that it is about knowing Christ, trusting in him, leaning on him and knowing how very much he loves us. It is about spreading joy, warmth and love. David is all of this and all of us who know him are blessed. God will somehow in his mercy, make it right.
    You are dear, dear friends and will continue to be in our hearts and prayers.
    Jim and Jackie

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  20. My heart was so saddened to hear of the recent news, but also not surprised as I've seen how much pain and suffering you have said he is in. I imagine God does not want to prolong this suffering any more than you do. I encourage your very difficult decision not to use a g tube for David or force anything on him that would simply prolong the suffering he is in. I can only imagine how hard that was to decide as a parent, but how precious that you can care for him so selflessly in handing him over to the Lord's ultimate plan. My prayers and thougths are with your family often as you face these difficult days ahead. Praying peace and comfort will blanket your hearts and home as well as David's body. Also that you may find small moments of joy in these final earthly days with your precious son.

    Love in Christ,
    Julie Jensen (Parry)

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  21. It was nice to see David on Saturday. He took my hand and huged the Teddy bear. What a blessing he is to so many people. he has touched so many lives. We are praying for peace for David and for your family. I have been so touched by your welleness to share what you are all going through. My heart hurts for what Dan and Chris are going through. I also feel great pain for what you and Brenda are going through. We love you all and will continue to pray for you.
    Love,
    Anne, Ed, Meg and JP MIller

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  22. My thoughts and prayers for David and the family praying for comfort and peace to all. Thank you for sharing this journey and the will to carry it out.

    xoxo Debbie Trotz

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  23. Warren and Brenda-We love you and David. We will be praying for all your Family !!! xoxoxo-The Glies'

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